Things Women Should Know About Men

1. ALL BLACK SHOES LOOK THE SAME TO HIM. -   Of course this may be somewhat of an exaggeration. But face it, Ladies...Men typically are not offered as many styles in the same color as women are. Therefore, that strappy black slingback, is EXACTLY the same as the peeptoe black slingback.

2. HOW WAS YOUR DAY?" doesn't mean "How was your day?" - As insensitive as it sounds, when men ask this question, they typically do not want a play-by-play of your entire day. Quite frankly, it's boring. And unless you have something specific you want to discuss with him, he really doesn't care about your co-worker's son's Little League Game.

3.  INITIATE SEX. - Yes, sometimes men want women to be a bit more aggressive in the bedroom, especially if they tend to make the first move most of the time.  Men do enjoy a chase.  But after being together for a while, they need to feel wanted as well. Initiate sex a bit more often, and you could see dramatic improvements in your sex life. 

4. "NOTHING'S WRONG" means, nothing is wrong. - Sometimes that quiet, brooding type of man is simply having a quiet moment to himself.  Women are the ones who ordinarily like to discuss and plan the details of almost everything.  But men are more hands on. When they are quiet, it doesn't necessarily mean that something is wrong - only that they are thinking. 

5. "I LOVE YOU" isn't always said with words. - Once women understand that men show love in a variety of ways, women will happier.  Recognizing loving gestures will definitely help get the point across. Sometimes those three little words are being screamed loud and clear, with actions instead. 

6. HE DOESN'T REALLY WANT TO KNOW ALL ABOUT YOUR PAST. - Sure, you've had honest dialogue about your previous racy adventures.  But guess what? Men don't want to know EVERYTHING you've done, and EVERYONE you've done it with. A little mystery helps keep some of the fire alive. And besides, there is nothing wrong with keeping some private things, private.

7.  DON'T BE A DOORMAT. - Whoever coined the phrase that nice guys finish last, was actually onto something. While this doesn't mean that you should be rude or inconsiderate to your sweetie, it does mean that you should stand firm about things you believe in.  Don't cave in to every whim for the sake of keeping your man around.  In the end, it doesn't usually work anyway.  Stand firm in your beliefs, and you'll maintain not only your integrity, but a healthy relationship. 

8. HAVE A LIFE! - Make sure that you've got something going on the side. No, not someone -something.  Activities, friends, and hobbies are all important in keeping you sane.  It's fine to do things together. But no one can stand to be around someone 24 hours a day without there being tension from time to time.  The phrase "absence makes the heart grow fonder" has a huge ring of truth. 

9.  DON'T LET YOURSELF GO... -  This doesn't mean bending your looks to satisfy the whims of your man.  And it doesn't mean refusing to wear a particular style that he likes.  Women should make sure that they feel as sexy as they did on the day they met their mates.  A few pounds here and there may not make a difference to your beau.  But if you've gained over 100lbs, first ask yourself if YOU'RE happy with it. If not, then do something about it - FOR YOU.   A happier YOU makes for a happier "us". 

10. COMPLIMENT HIM. - Men like and need to feel attractive too. However, make sure that the compliments are genuine.  If you like the way he looks in his favorite shirt, say so.  Not only is it a boost to his confidence, but it lets him know that he's still attractive to you as well! 

11. Men don't know what to do when women cry. So help him out & tell him what to do! Otherwise he will assume there is a problem & he WILL try to fix it!

12. Men take sports, gadgets, hobbies, work or something else seriously. And he really love it when women show more than just a passing interest.

13. Men are not good at taking hints. So please tell him directly what you want. Incidentally hints become nagging when oft repeated, so please avoid multiple hints. Try another approach e.g. tell him you are going to spend lots of money getting a tradesman to do what he won't do!

14. Men generally prefer to be left alone when processing problems. Believe it or not he don't need to talk about it to process it. Strange I know but it's what they do! They'll talk when we are ready.

15. Men need mates for 'bloke only' chats & connections. Likewise, they like their wives to have girlfriends because.... well, they think it just helps!

16. Men can be romantic but we worry that we will do it all wrong. So help us out by telling us what you prefer.

17. Men's sexuality is different to a womens though I reckon you might have already figured this out! They operate visually so modest dress sense please. Also unless we (and you) are single, no flirting... it scrambles our brains & we end up quite confused. Even more confusing for everybody is that sometimes we can mistake over-friendliness for flirting. This does get complex so bear with us!

18. Men often feel inadequate, insecure & uncertain. In years gone by our roles were readily understood. We thought we were the leaders and that was it! Feminism has achieved some wonderfully liberating things for women however the downside is that sometimes they are unsure about our place. So they need your help to be all we're meant to be. Forgive them when they let you down... your forgiveness certainly helps them forgive theirselves.

19. Men care about how they look... but only sometimes! They really care about how women look & they do prefer you to be as feminine as possible.

20. Men crave respect. More than anything else they want women to respect them. They love it when you tell them "I'm so proud of you". They die on the inside when you cut them down in front of others, especially their mates. They know they have significant egos & they'd prefer you to just accept this fact. You hold immense power in their worlds for good - use it to build them into the men they should be.

by: associatedcontent.com 

How To Move On After A Break Up

1. Give yourself plenty of time to heal and recuperate. Remember that time heals all wounds. Put away pictures, gifts or any mementos that remind you of your ex. It is natural to experience feelings of denial, but do your best to resist the urge to call your ex and ask to get back together. Immediately after a break-up, you are at your most vulnerable state, so be careful not to get into a rebound relationship that may prove to be a mistake. Avoid some of the pitfalls, such as drowning your sorrows in alcohol, and instead channel all of your energy into positive activities that make you feel good about yourself.

2. Surround yourself with friends and loved ones. Talk about how you're feeling and allow them to comfort you and offer you advice. A break-up can be a very lonely experience, so surrounding yourself with others you love and trust will help to erase some of the loneliness. Don't try to deal with the experience all by yourself. Go out and meet new people, rebuild old relationships, network and immerse yourself into social situations. Keep yourself busy doing things you enjoy with the people you love, and don't dwell on the past.

3. Go out and have fun. Don't stay home and sulk, as it will only make you feel more miserable. Round up a group of friends and hit the town. Do something fun and exciting, such as a night of dancing or bar hopping. Plan a weekend beach or camping trip or take a quick out-of-town getaway. Going out with friends will remind you that being single can be just as fun as being in a relationship. It will also help to keep your mind off your ex.

4. Take some time off for yourself and get away from the world for a while. Use this time to reflect on your life and expectations for the future. Enjoy your time alone with relaxing activities such as reading, taking long baths, watching your favorite movies or engaging in a favorite hobby or pastime. Basically, take this time to do whatever makes you feel the most relaxed and calm. Clear your mind of all negative feelings to help you slowly let go of any lingering bitterness.

5. Start dating again. After you have given yourself adequate time to get over your last relationship, consider getting back into the dating game. Allow yourself to fall in love again and enjoy the start of a new relationship. Be careful to not rush things and take the time to really let your partner into your life. Take care not to be consumed in this new union, or any other relationship, for that matter--you never know when another break-up may happen.

6. Whatever you do, don't let a break-up get you down. Remember that everyone experiences break-ups regardless of age, race, class or social status. Even celebrities go through bad break-ups, so don't let the end of a relationship destroy your self-esteem.

7. If you don't feel like you are recovering from your breakup after a significant amount of time, seek professional help. You may be suffering from clinical depression.

8. Realize that you are better off. This may be the hardest step to do, but you must take into consideration that you broke up for a reason. You can find someone much more compatible with you.

9. Make goals. Focus on you. Whether you want to score that A in history class, or get a promotion at work make a goal for yourself. The more goals the better as long as you try to work at all of them. When these goals are met you will feel like you have accomplished something.

 

10. Get a part time job. Make some extra money while you recover from your breakup. Get a seasonal job that will put you in a new environment and allow you to meet new people whom you might make friends with.

11. Pick up a new hobby. Now could be a good time to do something that you have always thought of doing. Take dance lessons. Start a blog. Volunteer with the homeless. Before you know it you will forget all about old what’s his (or her) name.

by: ehow.com