He's Not That Into You

1. If he doesn't call you.....at all!! He's really not that into you. Maybe your date went great, maybe there were 'sparks' and stars falling, and the moon moving and all of that, but if three or four days later, you've dropped your cell phone in the toilet at least twice because you refuse to set it down for even a second, you've almost killed yourself in the shower trying to get to it only to discover it's your mom calling, and you've called your best friend over 500 times just to test the dial tone....and HE still hasn't called- I'll help you out on this one-he's not going to.

2. If you send him a text message, or a cute Xoxoxox email, and hours maybe even a day later he still hasn't responded, or he waits hours or a day later to respond: You are an afterthought. He's really not that into you. Fact: When a man really wants to be with you, if you text him during surgery, he will respond. If he doesn't, he has other things occupying his time and attention

3. If he does call you, but it's at 11:00pm or later, umm....need I spell this one out for you. Unless his job is closing down the Taco Bell drive thru and this is when he gets off work, any and all after 10pm calls can be taken for exactly what they are and I wouldn't be doodling your name with his last name any time soon.

4. This one is tricky, and most men might even argue this one out with me, even still I know it to be true: If he calls you "cool" "cute" or "hot" before the 2nd date and more times than he calls you by name: He's not that into you. If you are "cool" it means he's already pegged you as being understanding and accepting of all the devious or otherwise not forth coming things he's about to do on an ongoing basis. If you're "cute" well...you'll just always play 2nd to the one he's calling "hot" and if you're "hot" ...yep, you guessed it.

5. If at anytime during conversations or even if you've been dating a while, you hear the phrase "I'm no good at relationships" or anything to its effect: don't wait this one out. You are not that 'special someone' whose going to completely turn him around! What he's telling you is, he has no intention on ever being in one, at least not with you, so any time you spend together is simply in the mean time.

6. This one almost goes along with the 'him not calling you' scenario and yet it deserves it's own place: If you have been talking to a guy, and then days and weeks go by before he out of the blue calls you again, and especially when this happens repeatedly!! He is simply bored. He calls you when he is lonely and bored and already knows you'll fill the gap. He's really not that into to you.

7. I hate adding this one, simply because it is so 'high school' and well, tacky that I want to leave it out. But it must be said: If he attempts anything, and I do mean ANYTHING (even simple things) other than a kiss on your first date: I promise, he really is not that into you. If he saw the potential of anything meaningful coming out of the relationship, he wouldn't even try on the first date, if he does he's already viewed this one with one single agenda in mind.

8. This is another tricky one: But if he interrupts you often, or changes the topic completely to something more 'self satisfying' or if he in no way reacts to the story you are telling: He's not listening because he is thinking of something else completely because.....he's really not that into you. Another Fact: When a guy REALLY likes you, they record & memorize important details like a playboy bunnies phone number! Granted it's usually to be used to their benefit later, but they do it because they really like you and want to impress you by remembering your favorite flower, or the song you turned up in the car, or that Easter is your favorite holiday? If they don't, they know they will have no use for any of this information later, so they tune it out completely.

9. Look for signs during the date to see if he is interested in you or just being kind. Men who are into you will move closer to you, attempt to hold or kiss your hand, compliment you, and make plans to see you again. Men who are just being kind will not move closer to you, wait for you to start the conversation, they may look at other women, and they will generally take you to your door and leave you.

10. Watch for how he introduces you when confronted with friends and family. He may not introduce you as his girlfriend, but just a friend. Pay attention to how often he returns your phone calls. If he has a pattern of not returning your calls, you are more than likely not a priority and he is just not that into you.

11. Observe how he prioritizes holidays, birthdays, and special events. If he doesn't acknowledge special days like anniversaries or your birthday comes and goes once again without a card or phone call, then he probably does not have any consideration for you. End the relationship and move on when you understand he is not into you anymore.

12. Ask him how he feels. Let him know the specific details that make you think he is not that into you anymore. In the beginning, you talked about love an marriage, and now you can barely get him to come home for dinner. In his mind the decision may already be made to move on. Though painful, confronting him will be best in the long run for both of you.

by: ehow.com